Who am I?

Wondering about identity.

Who am I? Is my identity altered when my circumstances, relationships, roles change? Or am I who I’ve always been?

Who am I now I’m no longer a Vicar? Am I wife, mother, gran, sister,  gardener, time waster, sunlover, giver, taker, procrastinator, over-eater, friend?

Well yes …………. and no.

Those things are only part of who I am.

I’m a child of God, created and shaped by the Divine, eternally part of all that has been, all that is and all that ever more shall be.

I’m Susan – the name means ‘pure, white lily’. Would love to be that.

Time to think is awesome. Who am I really? At over 60 years of age, it feels like I’m just beginning to glimpse the person/being/essence of Susan.

it’s fascinating observing the projections I’ve put out there over the years. They all reflect a little of what’s inside; of reality.

Some people call pondering on such things ‘navel gazing’ as if that were a bad thing. But I believe that in knowing myself, I also get a better view of the one who knows me as no other does. Not sure how much closer I am to knowing the real me but pleased I’m in good company.

Dietrich Bonhoeffer wrote this poem while in prison for his resistance efforts in Nazi Germany:

Who Am I? 

Who am I? They often tell me
I stepped from my cell’s confinement
Calmly, cheerfully, firmly,
Like a Squire from his country house.

Who am I? They often tell me
I used to speak to my warders
Freely and friendly and clearly,
As thought it were mine to command.

Who am I? They also tell me
I bore the days of misfortune
Equably, smilingly, proudly,
like one accustomed to win.

Am I then really that which other men tell of?
Or am I only what I myself know of myself?
Restless and longing and sick, like a bird in a cage,
Struggling for breath, as though hands were compressing my throat,
Yearning for colors, for flowers, for the voices of birds,
Thirsting for words of kindness, for neighborliness,
Tossing in expectations of great events,
Powerlessly trembling for friends at an infinite distance,
Weary and empty at praying, at thinking, at making,
Faint, and ready to say farewell to it all.

Who am I? This or the Other?
Am I one person today and tomorrow another?
Am I both at once? A hypocrite before others,
And before myself a contemptible woebegone weakling?
Or is something within me still like a beaten army
Fleeing in disorder from victory already achieved?

Who am I? They mock me, these lonely questions of mine.
Whoever I am, Thou knowest, O God, I am thine! 

 

 

So who are you?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hello world!

Wondering. Restless. Kind of in limbo right now.

That’s me.

Anyone else feel the same?

So ……… resigned my position as Vicar in Richmond, Nelson because it seemed like the right time – for me and them.

Next step: move to Canterbury.

Why Canterbury?

Three adult children, three partners, and 8 1/2 grandchildren, who we love, all live in the region. We want to be closer to them. (We = husband and me)

So we both left jobs.

We’ve found a gorgeous house that we hope to buy. Kind owners are letting us rent it for now.

Problem: we have no jobs and we need one or two to pay a mortgage so we can buy gorgeous house.

“Things will work out” they say.

“God will provide” others offer in efforts to reassure.

It’s very easy to be staunch before reality hits. Jobs/ministry/whatever you want to call it are actually harder to find than we thought.

The house we are currently renting is in a small village. it’s nice and quiet………….and has beautiful garden.

In this garden are flowering cherries and camellias and rhododendrons and daffodils and tulips and daphne and ………. I want to stay here forever.

Not feeling quite so staunch right now –

Here is my current wondering: Does having faith mean feeling sure and certain and staunch or is faith just as real in the wondering and uncertainty and trying to patiently let things unfold too?

A recent quote I read goes like this:  I believe if you keep your faith, you keep your trust, you keep the right attitude, if you’re grateful, you’ll see God open up new doors. …

Really?

Does how God acts depend on me? Do I have to have it all together? If that’s true then I reckon I’m up s… creek without a paddle.

The God I am beginning to discover (yep only beginning after being sold short for so many years) is not dependant on me in any way, shape or form.

Surely this God will act in ways that are good – good for me and for all of creation – regardless of how much ‘faith’ I do or don’t have.

Maybe faith has nothing at all to do with what will happen, how God will act, what life will dish up.

I’m with the Dad who says “I believe; help my unbelief”.*

Maybe faith is more about hanging on, in the midst of doubt and uncertainty, to the idea that there is One who is truly good.

And that somehow that One is working good things out?

 

 

  • Cool story in the Bible. Mark 9:14 – 29

Susan has been thinking…